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Shiva Baby review - sex, lies and rugelach

Shiva Baby review - sex, lies and rugelach

Trapped in a Jewish family gathering: Emma Seligman's debut feature is full of life

Do you take sugar? Danielle (Rachel Sennott) with Fred Melamed and Polly Draper as her parents

Comedian Rachel Sennott stars as Danielle, a conflicted, bisexual twenty-something college student who's taking money she doesn't really need from a sugar daddy who isn't who she thinks he is. Emma Seligman’s debut feature, which began as a short in her film studies degree at New York University, is full of energy in its exploration of the dynamics of sex, power and career, with lox and bagels on the side.

At the shiva (a Jewish mourning event featuring, in this case, a large buffet and poisonous gossip) Dani is plunged into a maelstrom of nosy, judgmental relatives and parental friends, all of them obsessing about her weight loss – “She used to be kind of chubby,” says her well-meaning father (a brilliant Fred Melamed)  - and her career. As if that's not enough, the sugar daddy she had sex with that morning in his SoHo apartment turns up at the shiva with his wife and baby.

Why isn’t she at grad school or law school, wonders the chorus of busybodies. What is this vague, made-up gender studies major she mentions? How is a feminist lens going to lead to making money? And why doesn’t she have a boyfriend when she can surely find someone – a doctor or lawyer, preferably - on Jdate and JSwipe?

Sometimes this New York Jewish family hysteria may seem in danger of verging on caricature but Seligman’s tone is so original and exuberant that you’re carried along on the anxiety-ridden roller-coaster, and Sennott conveys Dani’s inner life, and her juggling of different personas, with great intelligence. She’s prone to mischievously black asides (as well as compulsive lying). Admiring some travel photos on an old lady’s phone, she murmurs, “You guys are at the Holocaust Museum! You look so happy!”

Danielle is using a Sugar app (all the rage at NYU, apparently, when a young student needs financial assistance from a wealthy older person), which is how she met Max (Danny Deferrari), a handsome, bearded young man with an entrepreneurial “shiksa princess” wife, Kim (Dianna Agron; Glee, pictured above with Danny Deferrari as Max), who can’t pronounce rugelach. “She has three businesses but you can’t tell because she’s so chill,” enthuses Dani’s childhood friend Maya (Molly Gordon). “Why three?” asks Dani bitterly. “Did they all fail?”

At his apartment that morning Max slips Dani (looking older and smoother than she does at the shiva) a wodge of notes (she has to remind him to pay up) and fastens a bracelet on to her wrist, saying how happy he is to support her in her law-school studies. That bracelet that will come to haunt them both.

But as the claustrophobic shiva progresses, Dani’s mother (the wonderful Polly Draper), who barks insults at her genial husband  - “You have a farkakta memory. You’ve got Alzheimer’s” - becomes concerned about her daughter’s odd demeanour. How do Dani and Max know each other, she wonders? Their stories about meeting at shul or temple don’t add up. Especially as Dani never sets foot in either. And she’s worried about Dani’s “experimenting” with Maya.

Maya and Dani’s relationship is complicated. At first their antagonism is unexplained, then you realise they were lovers. They went to the high school prom together, Maya, who really is at law school, explains to a puzzled Max. But they have drifted apart, perhaps because of Dani’s preoccupation with sugar sites, which Maya, the most self-aware and in-control character in the film (Molly Gordon, pictured below, left, with Danielle), knows nothing about until she glimpses Dani’s phone.

shivamayaAnd why is Dani using these apps? Her parents, as they remind her benignly and humiliatingly, pay her rent and bills and have put her on their pay-roll. Max, understandably, looks increasingly confused as he hears these revelations. Perhaps, as she eventually explains to Maya, it’s a question of power. And with parents like hers, who can blame her? Their smothering and infantilising, albeit loving - and of course she lets herself be infantilised - is almost Portnoy-esque (and as Portnoy put it, “My wang was all I really had to call my own”).

Power is the crucial factor in Max’s behaviour too. Like Dani, he is playing a role, that of the well-heeled businessman, when in fact his wife is the breadwinner. Reality, in the form of savvy, suave Kim forcing her to hold their crying baby, shocks Dani into a tearful epiphany, breaking glass and dropping prayer-books as she goes. It’s her tender relationship with Maya that looks set to save her, though the film’s ending feels a little unfinished. But then, Danielle herself is unfinished, and you want to know where life will take her next.

Sometimes this New York Jewish family hysteria may seem in danger of verging on caricature but Seligman’s tone is original and exuberant


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It tediously casts Jewish Dianna Agron as a non-Jewish foil to the Jewish lead (played by non-Jewish Rachel Sennott). In fact, it’s one of Sennott’s two Jewish starring roles in 2020. I hope she does Chinese next! Casting directors should memorize this list: Actors with two Jewish parents: Mila Kunis, Natalie Portman, Logan Lerman, Paul Rudd, Joseph Gordon-Levitt, Bar Refaeli, Anton Yelchin, Jennifer Jason Leigh, Emmanuelle Chriqui, Adam Brody, Kat Dennings, Gabriel Macht, Sarah Michelle Gellar, Erin Heatherton, Lisa Kudrow, Lizzy Caplan, Gal Gadot, Debra Messing, Gregg Sulkin, Jason Isaacs, Jon Bernthal, Robert Kazinsky, Melanie Laurent, Esti Ginzburg, Shiri Appleby, Justin Bartha, Margarita Levieva, James Wolk, Elizabeth Berkley, Halston Sage, Seth Gabel, Corey Stoll, Michael Vartan, Mia Kirshner, Alden Ehrenreich, Julian Morris, Asher Angel, Debra Winger, Eric Balfour, Dan Hedaya, Emory Cohen, Corey Haim, Scott Mechlowicz, Harvey Keitel, Odeya Rush, William Shatner, Leonard Nimoy. Aaron Taylor-Johnson is Jewish, too (though I don’t know if both of his parents are). Actors with Jewish mothers and non-Jewish fathers: Timothée Chalamet, Jake Gyllenhaal, Dave Franco, James Franco, Scarlett Johansson, Daniel Day-Lewis, Daniel Radcliffe, Alison Brie, Kristen Stewart, Joaquin Phoenix, River Phoenix, Emmy Rossum, Ryan Potter, Rashida Jones, Jennifer Connelly, Sofia Black D’Elia, Nora Arnezeder, Goldie Hawn, Ginnifer Goodwin, Judah Lewis, Brandon Flynn, Amanda Peet, Eric Dane, Jeremy Jordan, Joel Kinnaman, Ben Barnes, Patricia Arquette, Kyra Sedgwick, Dave Annable, and Harrison Ford (whose maternal grandparents were both Jewish, despite those Hanukkah Song lyrics). Actors with Jewish fathers and non-Jewish mothers, who themselves were either raised as Jewish and/or identify as Jewish: Ezra Miller, Gwyneth Paltrow, Zac Efron, David Corenswet, Alexa Davalos, Nat Wolff, Nicola Peltz, James Maslow, Josh Bowman, Andrew Garfield, Winona Ryder, Michael Douglas, Ben Foster, Jamie Lee Curtis, Nikki Reed, Jonathan Keltz, Paul Newman. Oh, and Ansel Elgort’s father is Jewish, though I don’t know how Ansel was raised. Robert Downey, Jr., Sean Penn, and Ed Skrein were also born to Jewish fathers and non-Jewish mothers. Armie Hammer, Chris Pine, Emily Ratajkowski, Mark-Paul Gosselaar, and Finn Wolfhard are part Jewish. Actors with one Jewish-born parent and one parent who converted to Judaism: Dianna Agron, Sara Paxton (whose father converted, not her mother), Alicia Silverstone, Jamie-Lynn Sigler.

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